dreams and such

I know I've talked about my dreams here before.  I tend to have these crazy vivid dreams that sometimes, stay with me for days. 

Many of these dreams include other guys - or other girls for C.  Last weekend when C was home for a couple of days (did I mention that he was home?), I had this insane dream about me surprising him while he was on tour and I caught him totally flirting with some hot girl.  I went up to him, all excited to see him and to give him a huge hug, and he gave me a dirty look and walked away with her.  Yeah, the dream sucked, but in a roundabout way, I almost enjoy a dream like that so I can wake up and just be grateful for the relationship I do have with him.

I once read how cheating dreams can appear pretty frequently in even a good relationship and I totally believe it because have had a few dreams in the course of our relationship about other guys.  Some include ex's, for example, I would run into an ex and see him happily married or in a relationship and would be so heartbroken.  Others have been about guys who I don't even know but I would feel "crushes" for.  Some, I would even kiss.  Last night was a bit different. 

We were at some sort of beach resort - C, my sister, a few friends, and some guys (one, in particular, who resembled Riggins from Friday Night Lights).  C had gone to play golf with a couple of the guys (C HATES golf) and I stayed back at the pool.  So, Riggins and I were flirting, and drinking, and I'm enjoying myself, and next thing I know, he's kissing me.  I was initially happy, and then I remember pulling myself away and running.  I then was having a conversation with a girlfriend from high school who I know longer talk to, and telling her very calmly "of course it was exciting and fun.  But anything that even feels exciting and tempting now will just eventually end up in a comfortably, good place - which is exactly where I feel with C.  It's just not worth it.  I'm making that choice."

OK, so when did I become Dear Abby in my dreams?  I mean, I agree with myself when I said that - because I do feel like cheating is always a temptation for anyone in even the happiest of relationships - it then comes down to a decision that you have to make whether or not you want to actually go down that path.

The funny part here is that I feel insanely happy in my relationship right now - infidelity on his or my part is not an issue.  I actually notice that whenever I have dreams surrounding my relationship that are a bit tumultuous, it tends to happen when things are really good.  Anyone else notice the same?

Anyway, C did make it home for a couple of days - but poor thing, was ridiculously sick - with a high fever and horrible cold, and so Superbowl was spent on our couch with Chicken Noodle Soup - which honestly?  Fine with me because who needed the extra calories?  Oh, and he also made a point to pull out the business section of Sunday's paper where there was a huge article about how to pick out the right diamond and pack it into his suitcase when he left on Monday.  Um, I like that kind of reading material!

Comments

[Sandy]

I get the same type of dreams sometimes. My relationships really good- and then I'll have some kinda cheating dream. Lke you, I realized it really only happens when I know it's not something I need to ACTUALLY worry about.
And ooh.. the ring section! Sounds perfect

[Miriam]

Dude-NICE with the ring section. That's pretty damned awesome.

[Each]

Stamp of Approval!

[Stephanie]

I've also had dreams about Mark cheating on me, but you're right, it's always when things are going really, really well. Glad that he was home for a few days! Yay!

[ana]

I've had a cheating dream once, and I didn't put much thought into it. My dreams are ridiculously far fetched to halt and think "what if"
It's great that you are in your happy place with the relationship. Dreams usually corrupt the soul :) Ignore them.
And what woman wouldn't like his man looking into diamonds?....Yay!

[Tina Vaziri]

I have cheating dreams every once in a while my bf with other girls, they are awful, but then I wake up and I remember that I have a wonderful man that wouldn't do those things!

[katelin]

I'm right there with you. I have cheating dreams sometimes, but then waking up with the bf is so reassuring and comforting. Something to remind me it really is only a dream.

[Michelle & the City]

i've had dreams like that a few times before. i've never noticed when they happen though (meaning if the realtionship was going good at the time or not so good). i wonder if it's related?

[Leah]

Nice touch on packing the article. I have cheating dreams sometimes. Sometimes I share them with the boy and we both laugh about it.

[QueenBee]

I've actually never had a dream where B cheats on me. I didn't realize that until just now. But where I cheat on him? Those dreams are quite unsettling for me.

But forget the rest of that. HOW TO PICK OUT THE RIGHT DIAMOND?! Oh mah gosh!! Yeah...that's not a bad thing, huh? :-D

[La]

Holy hell, he packed the article? Methinks that is pretty fantastic news!!

[crystall]

He didn't take that article with him for nothin'! Awwweeee