relationships

- My best friend is ecstatic in her relationship.  She got married last October and couldn't have waited one more second before she was able to say "my husband this or my husband that".  The day after Valentine's Day she called all of her friends to make sure we knew that her first V-day as a married couple was wonderful.  In almost every conversation that we have, she manages to slip in "aw, married life is great!"

- My other friend is taking another significant step in her relationship - she is moving in with her boyfriend of one year.  She vowed that she wouldn't move in with another boyfriend unless they were engaged, but alas, she didn't wait for the ring this time.  She is sure that he is right and I'm secretly hoping that he isn't.  I know her well, and I think she deserves much much better.  But it's all about learning through your own time and that is exactly what she needs to figure it out.

-I have another girlfriend who is 27 and a virgin.  She can't find a boyfriend for her life and believe me, she's tried everything - speed dating, online, being set up by friends, etc.  I feel so badly for her but the only advice I can giver her is to get wasted, have a (safe) one-night stand, and just get on with her life.  I truly feel that once the sex comes, the rest will too.

-My girfriend's divorced was just finalized on Saturday.  This is the girl who's husband was cheating on her for 1.5 years of their 2 year marriage.  No fun.  We had a little party for her Saturday night, complete with wine, food, and of course, lots and lots of lingerie to celebrate her new-found singleness.  She still broke out in tears a couple of times throughout the evening, but I have to say that she sure seems a lot happier these days.  I wish her all the luck in the world.

-My little 15 year old sister has been in a 3 month relationship with the guy of her dreams.  They were so cute, always together, supporting eachother, taking pictures together.  She emailed me this morning that he broke up with her yesterday and she is beyond devastated.  Ugh, I feel so badly for her.  Remember young love?  Could be so great and yet so so shitty.

I'm very happy to report that C and I are doing extremely well these days.  We're having fun, spending a lot of time together and with friends, and having a lot of sex.  Sorry if thats TMI but I'm telling you, it makes every relationship better.  The one thing that sucks is that C is still not working and it's sorta kinda freaking me out but I'm trying to stay calm because when you work freelance, this is your life.

I also want to tell you that I am HUGELY aware that I have sucked at the blogging thing as of late.  No posts, no comments, nada.  And I am sorry.  You guys know that sometimes life gets in the way.  SO if I'm only commenting on every other post of yours or sometimes every three posts, it doesn't reflect my lack of love for ya.  Believe me, that's still there :)

Comments

[Miriam]

Oh that's terrible for your sister. But young love is rough. And never fear about the posting/commenting. We still love you :)

[Stephanie]

Glad you and C are doing well. Doesn't it suck when life gets in the way of blogging?

[Jess]

It's hard to watch relationships fall down around you. I'm glad yours is still so strong. And some of your friends' as well.

[QueenBee]

Every day, love dies somewhere and is born somewhere else. It's as much a fact of life as new life beginning and others ceasing to live.

Though it's awfully heartbreaking to find out that it's happened to someone you care about.

[Samantha]

So sorry for your sister. And very happy for your friend who got out of that marriage. I agree that the virgin needs to get the sex part over with immediately. :)

[julybug]

Aww, poor little sis.

[katelin]

You definitely have a lot of different relationships going on around you right now. I'm glad you and C are definitely the better end of the spectrum :)

[Amber T.]

"I feel so badly for her but the only advice I can giver her is to get wasted, have a (safe) one-night stand, and just get on with her life. I truly feel that once the sex comes, the rest will too."

Definitely not feeling this one...

[libby]

what a spectrum of the relationship stages. and i hear you on life getting in the way, loud and clear!

[Leah]

Sex does help a relationship. When it isn't there other things tend to fall apart. I agree with your advice for the virgin, she probably exudes some weird energy. I have a guy friend like that and he is just one of those guys that everyone automatically thinks of as "friend."

[Princess Pointful]

I remember the first time I was dumped. We'd only been "together" (and I use that term loosely) for 3 weeks, but I sobbed in my pillow so fiercely that night.

[La]

I'm sorry, but I'm still trying to get past your 27 year old virgin friend. That's seriously, seriously amazing.

xox

[Tina Vaziri]

I wish life could stfu sometimes so that I could just spend a couple of weeks writing blogs, reading and commenting all day.

[Tina Vaziri]

I wish life could stfu sometimes so that I could just spend a couple of weeks writing blogs, reading and commenting all day.

[Molly]

I'm really happy you guys are doing well. And no worries on the lack of blog world, we all get busy. xoxo

[ana]

I'm glad to hear you guys are doing well. The whole blog world seems to be wanting to take a break. Don't worry about it.

[Abbie]

Everyone around me is married-yuck....
(secretly I so want that, bit don't tell them that)

Great blog.

[Michelle & the City]

wow 27 and a virgin?! damn she's missing out!

and i've been MIA lately too. life does get in the way every once in awhile. but i think that can be a good thing :)

[Bhanu]

I feel the same way about life getting in the way...
I really like this post :)

[Something]

Your virginal friend should run as far away from you as she can possibly get.

[aschlee]

OH relationships yes they can be tricky. A friend of mine is planning her wedding and she's completely absorbed in it, I'm happy for her, but sometimes I wonder how much more I can take of hear about table settings :P. Bummer about your friend getting a divorce, breaking up with a boyfriend would be bad enough, but a husband yikes. At least she's got friends who will buy her lingerie 'n get her out on the dating scene again :D Nice blog.

[aschlee]

OH relationships yes they can be tricky. A friend of mine is planning her wedding and she's completely absorbed in it, I'm happy for her, but sometimes I wonder how much more I can take of hear about table settings :P. Bummer about your friend getting a divorce, breaking up with a boyfriend would be bad enough, but a husband yikes. At least she's got friends who will buy her lingerie 'n get her out on the dating scene again :D Nice blog.

[aschlee]

OH relationships yes they can be tricky. A friend of mine is planning her wedding and she's completely absorbed in it, I'm happy for her, but sometimes I wonder how much more I can take of hear about table settings :P. Bummer about your friend getting a divorce, breaking up with a boyfriend would be bad enough, but a husband yikes. At least she's got friends who will buy her lingerie 'n get her out on the dating scene again :D Nice blog.

[aschlee]

OH relationships yes they can be tricky. A friend of mine is planning her wedding and she's completely absorbed in it, I'm happy for her, but sometimes I wonder how much more I can take of hear about table settings :P. Bummer about your friend getting a divorce, breaking up with a boyfriend would be bad enough, but a husband yikes. At least she's got friends who will buy her lingerie 'n get her out on the dating scene again :D Nice blog.

[ashley]

I recently lost my virginity. I'm 21. I guess it's a little different to be 27 and still have it. But I honestly believe that the problem here is that we put to much emphasis on guys and sex. I wish that I had just gotten it out of the way a long time ago. :S